How To Get Over a Gruesome Breakup

Going through a heartbreak can be a gut-wrenching, lonesome journey. At times, it may feel like you’re the only one to ever experience a pain that intense—trust me when I say—you’re not alone.

Breakups and divorce are known to be one of the top emotional stressors of life. So here are some helpful tips to minimize stress and get over your old lover.

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Allowing yourself to grieve

Allowing yourself to feel sad about the death of your relationship is important in your grieving process. Allowing yourself to have a good cry is always therapeutic, plus, who doesn’t love to wallow in their sorrows. So, plop on your earphones and put on a good sappy song.

Coming to terms

Coming to terms with it is the best you can do in this situation. Relishing the beauty of a relationship that has died can be a difficult task. But not all is lost. With each relationship we exit we learn more about ourselves and life than we did when we entered it. Use those moments as teachings to push forward onto bigger and better things.

Spending time with other loved ones

The most difficult part about a separation is accepting that you have not only lost a lover, but a best friend, and sometimes even your second half. With that being said, it's vital to surround yourself with other loved ones in your life who can easily fill that void for you. With new memories created with loved ones, moments with your ex significant other can feel like a distant memory that has little-to-no-effect on you.

Self care

Self care is the final step. Physical self care is a great way to get yourself going again. However, emotional and mental self care is even more pertinent. Here are some self care habits to indulge in to brighten your spirits and your physical being:

• Skincare

A good skincare regimen can easily soothe a broken heart. Winding down your night with a good facial steamer and sheet masks is easily my goto when trying to better my mood. My essential sheet mask has to be the ‘The Pink Dream’.

• Journaling

Journaling is a good method to hash out all your feelings and emotions without the commitment of a therapist. Being able to verbalize your thoughts on paper solidifies your reality and what you need to do in order to heal.

• Meditating

Meditating is great for finding inner-peace in a time of complete and utter emotional chaos. Meditating in the morning will especially help reach your goal of healing.

The next time you find yourself sobbing relentlessly into your pillow after a messy breakup, remember: not all is lost.